Why Taking "Me Time" Is Super Selfish

Monday, May 16, 2016

We've all said it before. After a long week we get home, drag our butts to the couch and text our friends that we're staying in tonight, because we just need some "me time". Taking time for ourselves is something incredibly important to do, yet, as I've experience personally, it's something I often feel guilty doing. As a millennial, we're told time and time again that we are a selfish generation, and by taking time to ourselves, we are perpetuating this selfishness. What I've come to learn, is that in this case, being selfish isn't really a bad thing.

Hey, It's Kate: Why Taking "Me Time" Is Super Selfish

As an introvert I take great pleasure in spending time by myself, it's how I "recharge". I'm often socially conflicted though, as I'm also very outgoing, so I have a hard time balancing "me time" with "party time". Here's an example: How many times have you told a friend you didn't want to hang out because you were too tired, only to be immediately berated that you were "no fun" or a "party pooper". Did you feel guilted into hanging out because you didn't want to seem like a Negative Nancy, or did you hold your ground? More often than not, I've found myself going out despite the fact that I knew I wasn't going to have a night to myself again in a while. Why? Because I didn't want my friends to think I was being selfish.

I come from a generation where parents told their kids, "if you work really hard, you can accomplish anything". Unfortunately, this just isn't true. Because we've been told we deserve certain things because we've worked hard, or tried our best, we've developed a mentality that we are entitled to everything. I fight this mentality constantly, and I know I'm not the only one. I found it really hard to allow myself time to be "selfish" because I am told constantly that my generation is too selfish. It was a sour taste in my mouth and no matter what I did, I couldn't get it out. That is, until I started to understand what I valued.

What did I value? I valued my friends, my family, my job-- so how did I show that I valued these things? I spent time with my friends and family, I worked hard at my job and I sacrificed things to show that I valued both, so shouldn't I deserve the same? There's no doubt in my mind that I've always valued myself-- I've always been mindful of my physical health, but sometimes I forget that it's so much deeper than that. Mental and emotional health is important too, and that's when I realized that if I wanted to stay healthy, I NEEDED to take time for myself. I didn't earn the right to, I didn't deserve to, simply put: it was a basic human need I had to have.

We all need "me time". For me, it's having a night in doing a face mask while painting my nails, watching a movie, and then going to bed before 11. What ever your "me time" looks like to you, do it. Don't feel guilty for doing it, and if you're feeling super selfish, own it! You should be the most important thing in your life, so take priority in yourself!

When was the last time you took some "me time"?


Six Things You Can Do When You're Home Alone For The Night

Tuesday, May 10, 2016

I live with housemates, so being home alone is something that is few and far between, but sometimes, when the moon is full and and the air is just right, the world is good to me and I am given a night with the house all to myself. Tonight, is that night.

Hey, It's Kate: Six Things You Can Do When You're Home Alone For The Night

Don't Wear Pants
I sometimes follow this rule even when my roommates are home, but usually I wear a long enough shirt to avoid any kind of indecencies. But tonight, nah, tonight you can go pants-free in all it's glory. You deserve it, you've had a long, pants-wearing-filled day. Treat yourself.

Light The Candle Your Roommate Hates
When you live with someone else sometimes you have to make compromises, like, say if a particular scent gives your roommates a headache, you have to refrain from burning said candle. But not tonight! Burn that mother effing candle in every single room. Because you can.

Pee With The Door Open
Don't pretend like you don't do it! This is one of my favourite parts about being alone, I don't have to worry about privacy. I can pee with the door wide open all. day. long.

Watch Whatever You Want On TV
You don't have to share the TV with anyone, so binge watch Gilmore Girls on Netflix. Watch Game of Thrones on full volume. Own that TV!

Solo Dance Party
A la Tom Cruise in Risky Business, shake your groove thang, twerk up a sweat, go crazy. Crank that sold boy (is that still a thing?) Extra fun if you include your pet as a dance partner, or if you motion towards your pet as if telling them, "this one's for you"

And finally,

Blast that stereo, sing all the wrong words, heck, don't even sing, just groan random notes. No one is here to judge you. Do whatever you want! You can even play that band you're embarrassed to admit you love, because you don't have to explain why "they have such a catchy sound, you know?"

What do you do when you have the house to yourself?


Are YOU A Crazy Cat Lady? Take This Quiz To Find Out!

Wednesday, April 27, 2016

Okay, so it's no secret I love cats. I'm a crazy cat lady and proud of it! A few weeks ago I showed you guys how you too could become a crazy cat lady, and now it's time to test yourself!

What better way to accurately prove if you are a crazy cat lady or not than with an internet quiz? Am I right?! Complete the quiz below and let me know how you did in the comments!!


I Remedied My Coachella FOMO With A Music-Fest Bucket List!

Monday, April 25, 2016

Here's something you may not know about me: I'm a musician. Yup. I'm self taught, and I actually play in a band. Naturally, being a musician means I love music and even more, I love LIVE music! If I'm being honest, I even had a bit of Coachella FOMO this month. Which is weird because I actually hate large crowds, and I especially hate sand in my butt crack. But I do love me some music festivals.

This is the face of someone who doesn't have sand up her butt crack, and also didn't wear a crop top and flower crown. But it is totally the face of someone who stood outside ally beside Walmart to take a picture while an old man walked his dog watched from a distance.

Today I've partnered up with Eventbrite to talk about my 2016 Music Festival Bucket List, and lucky for me, I actually live within 15 minutes of two festivals happening this summer: WAYHOME and Boots and Hearts.

Last year WAYHOME was host to a slew of amazing artists, including Sam Smith, Kendrick Lamar, and Canada's very own, Neil Young. This year Arcade Fire and The Killers will be performing, which is like, the best news ever to 16-year-old Kate. WAYHOME is still a fairly new festival, but it's actually made a name for itself. People were even calling it "Canada's Coachella", (but with really polite people, and a whole lot less dust). It just seems like it would be a really good time.

Boots and Hearts
Surprisingly, this music festival is being hosted in the exact same place as WAYHOME, just a few months later, and boy does it drive a totally different crowd! This is the epitome of music festivals in terms of the crowd that you get. People get a little crazy, and don't expect to sleep much because there are parties all night. Of course, this isn't my scene, but I'd love to go to see the performers! This year Boots and Hearts managed to land four of the biggest country stars to headline: Tim McGraw, Blake Shelton, Dierks Bently, and Sam Hunt. Right? I remember when this festival started a few years back and people were saying the festival was inspired by Bonaroo. Seeing as the location of the festival is in Oro-Medonte, I fondly started calling Boots and Hearts, "Bon-Oro" and haven't stopped since.

Honourable Mention: BottleRock Napa Valley
Gourmet food, delicious wine, and some of the best entertainers in the world? Sign me up! This summer Stevie Wonder, Red Hot Chili Peppers, The Lumineers, and Florence + The Machine (to name only a few of the freaking 70+ music acts) will be performing. Yes. Please. If I wasn't way the heck up north, BELIEVE ME, I'd be going.

Eventbrite has made it SUPER easy to find music festivals this summer. You can go to the Eventbrite website and type in your area to browse events, or just click here to see Eventbrite's Top Festivals to Watch in 2016 (you'll see the ones I mentioned above, plus a buttload more).

Do you like planning events? Eventbrite has that covered too! Eventbrite also provides event planning and management software so you can spend less time on the boring logistics, and more time partay-ing! PLUS you only have to pay them if your event makes a sale. Want to learn more? Check it out!

Have you been to a music festival before? What was it like? Will you be going to one this summer? Let me know!


Now This Is What I'm Talkin' About!

Tuesday, April 19, 2016

Can you believe this weather? Just a few weeks ago I was ankle deep in ice and snow, and now I'm sun bathing in my backyard in a t-shirt and shorts. A true Canadian spring!

I went for my first run of the season and finished with this view. There's something about this weather that puts everyone in a good mood, and I wasn't any different (I mean, I went for a run for crying out loud!) I got to break in my new white converse shoes, went for a walk by the waterfront, and ate enough ice-cream to send my bowels into lactose-induced distress. Don't you just love spring?

Want to know some other things I love?

The second season of Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt (more Titus songs, more awkward jokes, and more Tina Fey).


The Jungle Book (it's SO good! The cinematography is unreal, and I know I don't have to tell you about my love for Bill Murray..)

Oh, and I also LOVE making new friends..

A blog hop is a set time frame for current or aspiring bloggers to find new blogs and quality content. It is a great way to make new friends and find inspiration! It is also a fabulous way to promote your own blog and posts.
Dear Friends, What a day to celebrate! This is the 167th week of the Let's Be Friends blog hop! Thanks for joining us on this special day. Chelsee and Tiffany are extremely delighted to see the way this hop has grown and love to see your faces each week! **IMPORTANT HOUSEKEEPING NOTE! We are looking for co-hosts for our blog hop for May! This is a great way to gain new followers and network with other bloggers! If you are interested please email! Thank you!
Join us every Tuesday at 7am (MST). This blog hop focuses on content. LINK UP YOUR FAVORITE POST from last week in this fun content-sharing blog hop! I love the idea of blog hopping, but I love the idea of reading posts and quality content on new blogs I've never been to even more. Instead of simply linking up your blog button, you are now able to link up your favorite post you recently wrote. Have a delicious recipe to share, DIY tutorial, or heartfelt post? Share it with us! All hosts and co-hosts put up some unique and fun content from the past week. Make sure to check them out. P.S.- you may still link up your blog button and blog name, but it is encouraged to link up your favorite post instead. You will get more page views and interest if you do so! Some of the most successful blog hops I have participate in focus on content rather than just exchanging follows. You never know who will become a loyal follower or pin that delicious new recipe you posted!
The BEST part of this blog hop? Each week there will be a WINNER! That's right, each week we will choose one lucky blog to feature from the previous week's hop. This hop receives thousands of page views every week, so your blog will have the chance to be center stage for free. You must follow all the hosts and co-hosts in order to win. Only those who link up a specific post are eligible to be featured! *You must follow all the hosts and co-hosts in order to win.
The last exciting change is that the co-host spots will now be available to all sponsors of The Dwelling Tree or Southern Beauty Guide. If you are interested in co-hosting the blog hop, email Tiffany or Chelsee about sponsorship opportunities and how to co-host the weekly hop!
Let's Be Friend's Blog Hop Guidelines
1. Link up your favorite post from your week.
2. Follow your hosts and co-hosts.
3. Grab the button and post it on your blog so we can share the love.
4. Visit 3 other blogs, comment, and follow them along!
5. Tweet about this blog hop, using #letsbefriends
6. Pin the button on pinterest so we can spread the news!
Let's Be Friends
***Once a week, one blog will be chosen to be the featured blogger from the previous blog hop.
Meet your hosts:
The Dwelling Tree: Blog, Bloglovin' 
Southern Beauty Guide: Blog, Bloglovin'
Meet this week's co-host:
Lindsay @ The Flynnigans
Angie @ Angie's Angle
Thank you all once again for continually linking up at our blog hop. It is such a fun time and I am so impressed each week with all the amazing posts. Please continue to link up an actual post instead of your blog. We want to keep reading your content and it makes it more fun to pick a winner!
Is there anything we can do differently or better? Please share in the comments!
...on to the Winner! ***This weeks featured post from last week's hop: Wear Everything in March  
Blog Post: 10 things I learned from wearing everything in my closet Hi everyone! This is Tiffany this week. I loved this week's winning post because I NEED to do this! I feel like I have too many clothes and that it is time to consign or give away many of them. I loved this post because it inspired me to try to challenge myself to wear all the clothes in my closet as well as work to get rid of some of the clutter and keep only what I currently use. I love Sarah's blog, Foxy's Domestic Side, because she has super cute fashion advice and is a great writer. She also has an awesome marriage series as well as remodeling pics. Go check her out! So what are you waiting for? Go check out the blog Charlotte's Corner written by Charlotte.


Five Podcasts You Need To Be Listening To + An Etsy Giveaway!

Monday, April 18, 2016

I'm a very visual person, so I never in a million years thought I'd enjoy listening to podcasts, but I've taken quite a liking to them! There's something nice about just sitting down and listening to someone talk (all you audio book lovers can relate). You can tune everything out and just listen. It's great! And there are podcasts for everything! Love hearing people talk about your favourite show? There's a podcast for that! Want to hear about true crime? There's a podcast for that! Need relationship advice? Yup, there's a podcast for that too! 

If you haven't listened to a podcast, fear not! I'll help you ease into it. Also, I have an AMAZING giveaway happening this week, so keep reading if you want to know more!

Ah, the podcast that started it all! I started listening to Serial last year when everyone was talking about the Adnan case. This podcast is basically Making A Murderer, but before Making A Murderer was even a thing. Sarah Koenig is an investigative journalist and this season her and her team are trying to figure out what really happened with Sgt. Bowe Bergdahl, a soldier who was held for five years by the Taliban. What I like about this podcast is that Sarah and her team go about investigating with a very non-biased perspective. They flip back and forth between the possibility of people being innocent and guilty, and are just as curious as the audience as to what actually happened. 

Anna Faris Is Unqualified
Anna Faris loves love. So she's using her podcast as a form to help people with relationship advice.  Anna and her co-hosts (which usually includes someone famous like Chris Evans or Olivia Munn) call listeners and give them (unqualified) love advice. Sometimes it's super genuine, and other times it's so hilariously awkward. Whether you're single, dating, or married, you'll love this podcast.

The Nerdist
Where are all my nerds out there?! If you're familiar with The Walking Dead, or more specifically, The Talking Dead, then you'll recognize the voice behind The Nerdist as comedian Chris Hardwick. They obviously talk about nerdy stuff-- like Quentin Tarantino talking about his favourite types of films, or Morgan Freeman talking about how his career started, but it's actually so funny. Go back a few seasons and listen to Bob Saget talk about dealing with grief through humour. I was in tears laughing (while I was at work).

Grownups Who Read Things They Wrote As Kids
This is literally grownups reading things they wrote as kids. It's hilarious. They actually read these things live and record the whole thing so you get to hear the audience reactions. Plus it's Canadian so that's awesome.

You Must Remember This
This podcast is actually SO interesting. Karina Longworth explores the hidden and forgotten past of Hollywood. I found this podcast when she did an episode of Walt Disney and WOAH. It blew my mind. Did you know that during WWII, Charlie Chaplan was one of the first people to pitch an anti-nazi film, and was turned down almost immediately because most of the Hollywood producers at the time were Jewish and still had family in Europe. They feared that if news got to Germany, their family would be persecuted. Ultimately they ended up releasing the film, now known as The Great Dictator. If you have an obsession with Hollywood, or if you just like history, this podcast is for you.

What podcasts are you listening to?

$50 Etsy Giveaway
We're giving away a $50 Etsy gift card! This contest is only open to the US (sorry!) and you must be over the age of 18. The giveaway begins 4/18/2016 at 12:00 AM and ends at 4/24/2016 at 11:59 PM. If you lie in your entries, you will be disqualified. The winner will be chosen within 48 hours of the giveaway ending; once they are chosen, they have 48 hours to reply to the email they'll receive to confirm their win. Good luck!


Five Helpful Ways To De-Stress

Wednesday, April 13, 2016

Despite my calm, cool, and collected exterior, I actually get stressed out quite easily. Sometimes, I don’t even realize my body is under stress until my face starts breaking out, or I wake up with a sore jaw from clenching it all night.

Because I, like any normal person, deal with every day stressors, I found some great ways to help me relieve tension and de-stress.

Hey, It's Kate: Five Ways To De-Stress

Remind yourself that "this too shall pass"
I know, I know, it’s easier said than done but sometimes by just telling myself that stressing out won’t solve my problem, it helps me stay grounded in reality. I get anxious, and can view a very fixable issue as a catastrophe. I’ve found that if I take a moment to just breathe and tell myself, “It’s going to be okay” it sometimes helps. Just remember that if you try this and it doesn’t help, it’s not because there’s something wrong with you! Different strokes for different folks, right? Just try something else.

Have some quiet time
I’m an introvert so I get recharged by spending time by myself. When I’m feeling stressed out I like to just spend some time alone in peace and quiet. I usually make myself a cup of tea and run a bath with a really nice smelling bath bomb and light some candles. Rather than focusing on the things that are stressing me out, I try to clear my thoughts and think about other things— like what it would be like to be a famous actress, or win the lottery.

Hang out with your friends and family
Alternatively, if you’re an extravert, sometimes spending time with people you trust helps you de-stress. Call up a few of your friends and go for coffee or a movie. Plan something really fun and exciting to help you keep your mind off of whatever is causing you stress.

Let It Out
For me, when I’m stressed out about something, I like to unload about it. Whether it’s by calling up my bestie and crying over it, or writing about it in my journal. I’ve found that I feel so much better after I unload my feelings, especially if a good cry is involved. I grew up feeling really guilty if I cried when I got stressed out, that I would get even more worked up about not being able to cry. Let it out. It’s totally normal to show your emotions.

Exercise, exercise, exercise!
In the wise words of Elle Woods, “exercise gives you endorphins, and endorphins make you happy.” If I have a lot on my mind, I sometimes go for a run to process it. If you can’t run, just try going for a walk. I like going around dusk when the streets aren’t as busy and the air is cooler. Alternatively, have a solo dance party! Play some Taylor Swift and shake off all the stress. This is one of my favourite things to do when I’m stressed. I’ve actually made a playlist specifically for de-stress dance parties so that I can have a solid 45 minutes of uninterrupted dancing. 

Leia Snuggles
Studies have actually shown that spending time with any pet can reduce stress levels dramatically. Even one study shows that watching a fish tank can lower blood pressure! Nothing beats a good snuggle with your fur baby. If you have a pet you can do this with, I know you’ll agree! If you don’t have a pet, borrow one! I’ve had friends who’ve had bad days at work and will ask to come play with Leia for a bit because it helps them chill out.

These are only a few of the many, many ways I de-stress. Remember that just because these work for me, they might not all work for you— but try it out! I encourage you to put your own twist to these and create your very own techniques!

It so important to be self-aware about the things that stress you out, and know that if you need help, it’s always out there. Don’t be afraid to reach out!

What kinds of things do you do to de-stress?

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