We've all said it before. After a long week we get home, drag our butts to the couch and text our friends that we're staying in tonight, because we just need some "me time". Taking time for ourselves is something incredibly important to do, yet, as I've experience personally, it's something I often feel guilty doing. As a millennial, we're told time and time again that we are a selfish generation, and by taking time to ourselves, we are perpetuating this selfishness. What I've come to learn, is that in this case, being selfish isn't really a bad thing.
As an introvert I take great pleasure in spending time by myself, it's how I "recharge". I'm often socially conflicted though, as I'm also very outgoing, so I have a hard time balancing "me time" with "party time". Here's an example: How many times have you told a friend you didn't want to hang out because you were too tired, only to be immediately berated that you were "no fun" or a "party pooper". Did you feel guilted into hanging out because you didn't want to seem like a Negative Nancy, or did you hold your ground? More often than not, I've found myself going out despite the fact that I knew I wasn't going to have a night to myself again in a while. Why? Because I didn't want my friends to think I was being selfish.
I come from a generation where parents told their kids, "if you work really hard, you can accomplish anything". Unfortunately, this just isn't true. Because we've been told we deserve certain things because we've worked hard, or tried our best, we've developed a mentality that we are entitled to everything. I fight this mentality constantly, and I know I'm not the only one. I found it really hard to allow myself time to be "selfish" because I am told constantly that my generation is too selfish. It was a sour taste in my mouth and no matter what I did, I couldn't get it out. That is, until I started to understand what I valued.
What did I value? I valued my friends, my family, my job-- so how did I show that I valued these things? I spent time with my friends and family, I worked hard at my job and I sacrificed things to show that I valued both, so shouldn't I deserve the same? There's no doubt in my mind that I've always valued myself-- I've always been mindful of my physical health, but sometimes I forget that it's so much deeper than that. Mental and emotional health is important too, and that's when I realized that if I wanted to stay healthy, I NEEDED to take time for myself. I didn't earn the right to, I didn't deserve to, simply put: it was a basic human need I had to have.
We all need "me time". For me, it's having a night in doing a face mask while painting my nails, watching a movie, and then going to bed before 11. What ever your "me time" looks like to you, do it. Don't feel guilty for doing it, and if you're feeling super selfish, own it! You should be the most important thing in your life, so take priority in yourself!
When was the last time you took some "me time"?